Parenting is Easy. Said No Parent EVER.

Parenting is Easy. Said No Parent EVER.

Disclosure

Whomever has said parenting is easy obviously doesn’t have children. It isn’t. Everything about life that may seem easy can be a struggle to explain to a child. I don’t want my kids growing up hearing “Because I said so.” or “That’s just how it is.” as the answer to every question they ask.

Scott and I have always felt it was important to be honest with them about things. Yes, they enjoyed the secrets of Santa Claus and other kid-related topics, but we also felt it was important to be truthful about real issues such as death.

Trying to explain death to a child is heartbreaking. Unfortunately, sometimes it is necessary.

Make time to chat with your kids about important subjects. Use TV and movies to start the conversation. - SahmReviews.com

We try to make a point of taking advantage of time together and have real conversations with our girls. Often, we broach these subjects during family dinners. As an example, health and well-being subjects become natural segues while we dine. Sometimes a board game helps start a conversation related to war, science or whatever other theme the game involves. TV shows and movies are also perfect for introducing a subject to open a door to talk to your kids. We make the most of these opportunities to create a productive dialogue.

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But the reality is… there is a constant struggle to educate, inform and advise. From the time they are tiny and consistently inquiring “what’s that?” to teenage years and adulthood when they learn about more serious subjects involving money, laws, politics and love, there is an ever-changing canvas that parents find themselves painting alongside their children.

So how do you talk to your kids, regardless of their age? Here are some tips.

Talk about anything.

Be open to discussing anything and everything. All the time. When you tuck them into bed. When they come home from school. At the dinner table. In the car. During and after TV Shows. Listen as they make casual comments about something happening at school or with their friends. When you are open to conversation about simple topics, the more difficult topics are easier. Not easy, but easier.

Have an open door.

Let your kids know that any subject is on the table. If they have questions, let them ask with the confidence that it will be a judgement-free zone. How detailed you choose to discuss a topic is up to you, but find a way to answer their question so they know it’s okay. Over the years, we have discussed a variety of topics with our girls including politics, finances, sexuality, bullying and more. Sometimes they have difficult days and don’t want to talk, but eventually they open up. We hope that our open-door policy will provide them comfort so they can come to us when they need to.

Be a parent, not a friend.

I mentioned that you need to provide a judgement-free zone so kids can talk to you about anything. That doesn’t mean ignoring when action needs to be taken. Your child says they are being bullied and may ask you to promise not to tell the school or the teacher or the other parents or whomever. Use the same open-door discussion methods to explain that their health, well-being and interests are far more important and this isn’t something to be ignored. Learn tactful ways to address these issues.

Start the conversation.

If you are trying to talk about a particular subject, create the environment to start the conversation. One way to do this is to utilize current events and happenings such as news reports. A softer way is to sit and watch something on TV or Netflix. There are a variety of shows available that discuss various topics. Here are a few examples:

Ready to talk to your kids but don't know how to start the conversation? We have some tips. - SahmReviews.com

Topics to discuss with little kids:

Sibling Rivalry
The Hive
Watch Ep. S1E1: Babee’s Room

Buzzbee and Rubee compete over who Babee (their new sibling) gets to room with. Mom and Dad must explain to Buzzbee and Rubee that Babee needs to grow up before she can share a room.

Responsibility
VeggieTales
Watch Ep. S1E1: Puppies & Guppies/ Sorry We’re Closed Today

Larry and Laura Carrot want to adopt puppies but quickly learn it takes responsibility in order to watch over and care for a pet of their own.

Following the Rules
Puffin Rock
Watch Ep. S1E6: Stormy Weather/ Baba’s Adventure/ Rock Music

Mama tells Oona and Baba to stay close with a storm approaching. After ignoring her advice, Oona and Baba get stuck in a seagull nest during the heavy thunderstorms.

Ready to talk to your kids about difficult topics but don't know how to start the conversation? We have some tips. - SahmReviews.com

Topics to discuss with big kids:

Self-Love
Puss in Boots
Watch Ep. 113: Star

After Dulcinea feels like no one in the group needs her help, she tries to use a newly-discovered wishing star to show her worth — but fails — showing her that presence alone has lit up her friends’ lives all along.

Teamwork
Project Mc2
Watch Ep. 103: Smart is the New Cool

After McKeyla insists she works better alone, she learns that four is better than one when her friends jump in to help her rescue the Prince from a botched space mission.

Peer Pressure
Fuller House
Watch Ep. 106: The Legend of El Explosivo

After getting grounded for sneaking off to Bobby Popko’s house, Jackson realizes he needs to stand up for what he knows is right and not give in to please his friends.

Ready to talk to your kids about difficult topics but don't know how to start the conversation? We have some tips. - SahmReviews.com

Topics to discuss with teens:

Social Media FOMO (That stands for Fear of Missing Out, in case you didn’t know.)
Girl Meets World
Watch Ep. 102: Girl Meets Boy

Cory challenges his class to unplug from their phones for a week. When Riley and her crush Lucas sit down to talk face-to-face, personal stories bring them closer.

Self Improvement
Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt
Watch Ep. 104: Kimmy Goes to the Doctor!

Kimmy quickly realizes that she can’t fix her problems by simply “Buhbreezing” them away – real change comes from the inside.

Body Image
Degrassi Next Class
Watch Ep. 101: #BootyCall

According to the kids of Degrassi Community School, butts are the new boobs. But Shay’s realization that “brains are the new butts” can speak to a number of body image insecurities.

Of course, Neflix is filled with documentaries that cover a wide variety of subjects and open the doors to conversations.

Having discussions with your kids can sometimes be embarrassing, sometimes difficult and often heart wrenching. No matter what age your children are or how you decide to start the conversation, it’s important that you do.

What subject is most difficult for you to discuss with your kids?

Nicole

About Nicole

Founder and owner of SAHMReviews.com, Nicole has been involved in social media marketing since 2007. She has partnered with a number of major corporations who utilized her skills to improve their social media outreach and online presence. Nicole has worked as an ambassador for brands such as Netflix, U.S. Cellular and K'NEX, has been featured in McDonald's videos as well as Maria Bailey's book "Power Moms". Always a SAHM (stay-at-home-mom) and mother of two beautiful teen daughters, if you can't find Nicole, she is probably somewhere playing board games.

11 comments on «Parenting is Easy. Said No Parent EVER.»

  1. Michele says:

    As you know by now I do not have any kids. BUT that didn’t stop my friends kids from asking me all sorts of questions. I did try to be as honest as I could (within reason depending on their age)-although I was often laughed at for trying to really explain. I agree with you whole heartedly—keep those answers coming in whatever way is most comfortable for you. By the way the only time I said “because I said so” was when they wanted to play in the street!!!)

  2. Sandra Watts says:

    These are good tips. I asked my son once if he wanted me to be a friend or a mother and he said mother. I was good with that. I was just curious what he would say.

  3. Brian Chow says:

    parenting is hard

  4. Linda Hang says:

    But dont you love kids?

  5. It’s so nice to see all the educational options that Netflix has to offer families.

    As for the unstraight bangs, I just tell my son that “that’s the way I planned it” 😉

    Besos Sarah.

  6. Hard is an understatement, but a fun, worth time! Good to see all the great educational ideas Netflix offers us.

  7. Bev says:

    Love the comment about the bangs. I gave up cutting hair for the most part as I didn’t want them looking like Peruvian Guinea Pigs. I did try a few years later and with clippers and it turned out ok.

  8. Jeffrey says:

    It can be very hard to always explain things properly to kids.

  9. “Be a parent not a friend” best advice to all parents!

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