This past Tuesday I sat in the library at the elementary school alongside several other mothers and fathers of sixth graders. It was the annual Health and Human Development presentation put together by the principal, school counselor and nurse. Unlike other parts of the school curriculum, this is one lesson that is presented to the 4th, 5th and 6th grade parents before the kids see it. It’s addresses the uncontrollable changes that are occurring: one of the milestones in life that we all experience – adolescence.
It’s one of many milestones. Some are celebrated, others just experienced quietly without mention. Have you ever stopped to think about how many milestones every person has in their lifetime? Some are more meaningful than others, but they all have a huge significance at the time.
As I look back on my life, I think about the things that really made a difference. All the rejections and the accomplishments. When I met my husband, got engaged and married. When we tried to buy our first home but the offer didn’t go through. When we decided to start a family but discovered that it might not happen. All the times we have decided to move or change jobs. It all mattered then and it still matters now. It has made me who I am.
Then I look at my kids and I think about all their milestones. Miss M didn’t know what to make of the little person who started hogging her dad’s attention on that fateful day. They grow up so quickly. They get their first tooth. They lose their first tooth. They start school and have new hobbies and activities.
Milestones aren’t just for kids, either. As they continue to grow, not only are they experiencing milestones but so are we. As an example, last year they went snorkeling for the first time at the first port on their first cruise. Guess what… it was MY first cruise too! It was also my first time to a country (besides Mexico) that is south of the United States.
A child isn’t going to need to know how to prepare for losing a tooth in the physical sense but understanding what happens afterwards is just as important to a child. Did you know there are a lot of shows available on Netflix that deal with things that happen in life?
First move, new sibling, first date, changing schools, new job, getting engaged, getting married, having a baby… No matter the milestone, chances are there is a movie or TV show that can help someone relate.
Whether we look back and pay tribute to these life markers or not doesn’t matter… What does matter is being prepared for them. Movies and TV shows aren’t just for entertainment but they can also help us in other ways. Life lessons are everywhere.
How do you prepare for the milestones in your life?